You feel like you want to get your ex back. But have you sat down and thought about things like why you broke up, what you could have done better, how you can start a new relationship with your ex that goes better, and whether or not you really want your ex back or you just want to be back in a relationship. Getting clear on these things can help you move forward in the best way possible whether you still want to get your back or not.
1. What Went Wrong In Our Relationship?
Think about the events that led to the breakup. Were there any particular fights or disagreements that stand out to you? Why do you think those things happened? What role did you play in them?
Get detailed with this journal prompt. You may be holding back information from yourself because you don’t want to admit what they did, what you did, or why the relationship fell apart.
2. Why Do I Want My Ex Back?
Is it because you miss being in a relationship? Is it because you truly believe that things can be different this time around? Is it for any other reason?
Sometimes we just want to get back to a comfortable place, but that’s not a good reason to get your ex back, especially if they were not good to you or your relationship was toxic.
3. What Would Our Relationship Look Like If We Got Back Together?
If you got back together today, how likely is it that your relationship would be exactly like it was before? Have you done anything to change or have they?
Reflect on how things would be different this time around. What would you do differently? What would your ex do differently?
4. Am I Willing To Work On Things If I Get My Ex Back?
If you do get back together, things won’t be perfect. Are you willing to work on things this time around? Are you willing to change? Are you willing to admit that you played a part in your breakup and change your ways?
If your partner caused a lot of the problems, it’s important to reflect on your role of not standing up for yourself, accepting the lies, or not allowing yourself to see the truth. Being passive in a relationship contributes to its demise just as much as being toxic in the relationship.
5. What Can I Do To Make Things Better This Time Around?
Think about what you can do differently in the relationship. What can you do to communicate better? What can you do to show your ex that you’re committed to making things work?
6. What Do I Need To Let Go Of?
There’s always going to be baggage from your past relationship. What do you need to let go of in order for things to be different this time around?
7. How Will I Know If We’re Ready To Get Back Together?
What are some signs that you’ll be ready to get back together?
What are some signs that your ex will be ready to get back together?
Have any changes been made that ensure you will get your ex back and create a stronger and healthier relationship?
8. How Can I Make The First Move?
If you’re the one who wants to get back together, how can you make the first move? What can you do to show your ex that you’re committed to making things work?
9. What If My Ex Has Moved On?
If your ex has moved on, is there anything you can do to realistically get them back? Or is it time to let go and move on yourself?
10. What If We Do Get Back Together And Things Don’t Work Out?
What if you get back together and things don’t work out? What will you do? Are you willing to take that risk?
11. What Are The Reasons I Want To Get Back Together With My Ex?
Make a list of all the reasons you want to get back together with your ex. Why do you want to give things another try?
This journal prompt can help you get clarity on what you want to get your back and whether or not it’s just because you are feeling lonely.
12. What Are The Reasons I Shouldn’t Get Back Together With My Ex?
There are always going to be reasons why getting back together might not be a good idea. Make a list of those reasons and refer to it when you’re doubting whether or not getting back together is the right decision.
13. What Am I Willing To Compromise On?
In any relationship, there are going to be things that you’re not going to see eye to eye on. What are you willing to compromise on?
14. What Are My Non-Negotiables?
There are also going to be things that you’re not willing to compromise on. What are those things? Get clear on them with this journal prompt so that you don’t accept bad behavior going forward.
15. What Do I Need To Do For Me To Have A Healthy Relationship?
A relationship is never going to be healthy if you’re not taking care of yourself. What do you need to do for yourself? What self-care do you tend to neglect inside relationships?
16. How Can I Show My Ex That I’ve Changed?
If you have changed, how can you show your ex? How can you demonstrate the changes that you’ve made?
17. How Can I Make Things Right With My Ex?
If you’ve done something to hurt your ex, how can you make things right? What can you do to show them that you’re sorry and that you want to make things work?
18. What If My Ex Doesn’t Want To Get Back Together?
If your ex doesn’t want to get back together, what are your options? Is there anything you can do to change their mind?
19. How Do I Know That Getting Back Together Is Really What I Want?
There’s a difference between wanting to be in a relationship and wanting to be with your ex. Make sure that getting back together is really what you want before you take any steps to get them back.
20. What Are The Consequences Of Getting Back Together?
There are always going to be consequences to getting back together with your ex. What are those consequences? Are you willing to accept them?
21. What If We Can’t Get Back Together?
If you can’t get back together with your ex, what then? What will you do? How will you move on?
These journal prompts can help you get your ex back by exploring what went wrong in the relationship, why you want your ex back, what your relationship would look like if you got back together, whether or not getting back together is really what you want, and how to get your ex back if that’s what you decide.