A first date can be a nerve-wracking experience. It’s hard to know what to say, do, or wear. But it can also be a lot of fun. The key is to relax and have fun with it.
If you’re nervous about your first date, don’t worry. There are plenty of things you can do to prepare for it. First and foremost, you can ask yourself some questions to get in the right frame of mind and prepare for your first date. This will help you calm your nerves, behave in a way you want to behave, and focus on having a good time.
So don’t stress out – just enjoy the experience!
35 Journal Prompts That Will Help You Get Ready For Your First Date
1. Why Am I Going On This Date?
It’s important to have an intention set up for your first date so you know how you want to spend your time.
Are you looking for a relationship?
Just trying to have fun?
Hoping to make a new friend?
Keep this in mind so you can stay true to yourself on your first date.
2. What Do I Want To Be Remembered For?
This is an important question to think about before any date, first or not.
What qualities do you want to highlight?
Keep this in mind as you get ready for your first date.
3. What Do I Hope To Achieve From This Date?
Again, it’s helpful to have an intention set before going on a first date. Whether it’s finding love or simply enjoying yourself, having a goal in mind will help you stay focused and have a good time.
4. How Do I Want To Feel After This Date?
Think about how you want to feel after your first date.
If you’re hoping for a romantic connection, then you might want to focus on feeling loved and cared for.
If you’re just looking to have fun, then you might want to focus on feeling happy and content.
5. What Do I Need To Do To Prepare For This Date?
Now it’s time to get practical.
What do you need to do in order to have a successful first date? This might include things like picking out the perfect outfit, doing your hair and makeup, and making sure you have enough money to cover your expenses.
Get your to-do list in order!
6. What Do I Need To Bring With Me On This Date?
Again, this is a practical question to consider.
What do you need in order to have a good time on your first date? This might include things like your ID, your wallet, your phone, and any medications you need.
7. What Should I Wear On This Date?
This is a big one. What you wear on a first date can say a lot about you.
It’s important to choose an outfit that makes you feel confident and comfortable. You want to look good, but you also don’t want to look like you’re trying too hard.
8. How Can I Be Prepared If Things Go Wrong?
It’s your first date, so you can’t know exactly how they are going to act or what they are going to say. But you can be prepared for anything by thinking about how you would react in different situations.
What if they cancel last minute?
What if they show up late?
What if the conversation is awkward?
What if you get a creepy stalker vibe off them and want to get out quickly and safely?
Having a plan for these things will help you stay calm and collected if they do happen.
9. What Are Some Conversation Starters I Can Use?
If you’re worried about having an awkward first date, then it’s always good to have some conversation starters in mind. This way, if the conversation does start to lull, you can easily bring up a new topic.
Some ideas include talking about your hobbies, discussing current events, or asking them about their favorite TV show.
10. What Are Some Things I Should Avoid Talking About?
Just as there are some things you should talk about on a first date, there are also some things you should avoid.
This includes controversial topics, exes, and anything that might make your date feel uncomfortable.
You want to keep the conversation light and fun, so save the heavy stuff for another time.
By using this journal prompt, you can help avoid any awkward blurt-outs or first date.
11. What If I’m Nervous?
It’s normal to feel nervous before a first date. After all, you’re meeting someone new, and you want to make a good impression. But there are some things you can do to ease your nerves. This includes deep breathing, listening to calm music, and thinking positive thoughts.
Find what works best for you before your first date so you can utilize it if you need to.
12. What If Something Embarrassing Happens?
When you are trying to be at your best, often embarrassing things will happen. Keep your fingers crossed it doesn’t happen to you, but if it does, what will do? How will you handle it?
13. What If I’m Not Interested In Them?
It’s possible that you’ll meet someone on a first date who you’re just not interested in. If this happens, it’s important to be respectful and honest with them. You can say something like, “I had a great time, but I don’t think we’re a good match.”
14. What If They’re Not Interested In Me?
It’s also possible that the person you’re on a first date with will not be interested in you. If this happens, don’t take it personally. They might just not be looking for a relationship right now or they might not like something about you. Either way, it’s best to move on and find someone who is interested in you.
15. What Do I Do At The End Of The Date?
At the end of the date, you’ll need to say goodbye to the person you’re with. You can either go in for a hug or a handshake, or you can just say goodbye. If you want to see them again, you can say something like, “I had a great time. I’d love to do this again.” No matter what, have a plan in place to make it less awkward.
16. What If I Can’t Think Of Anything To Say?
If you find yourself in a situation where you can’t think of anything to say, don’t panic. There are a few things you can do to get the conversation flowing again.
The best thing you can do it to talk about something in your surroundings.
For instance, if a certain TV show is playing on a TV at the bar, then you can talk about that show or the memory it brings up for you.
17. What Don’t I Want In A Partner?
It can be easy to get swept away in hormonal bliss on a first date and ignore signs that the person would not be good for you.
It’s important to be aware of what you don’t want in a partner so that you can avoid getting into a relationship with someone who isn’t right for you.
This can include things like not wanting to date someone who doesn’t want children, or not wanting to date someone who is in between jobs.
18. What Do I Really Want In A Relationship?
It’s also important to be clear about what you do want in a relationship. This can help you weed out the people who are not right for you and attract the people who are.
Some things you might want in a relationship include someone who is kind, someone who is funny, someone who has a certain talent, or someone who has similar interests to you.
19. How Do I Want To Be Treated In A Relationship?
It’s important to know how you want to be treated in a relationship so that you can attract a partner who will treat you the way you deserve.
Some things to consider are how you want to be communicated with, how often you want to spend time together, and what kind of physical affection you prefer.
20. What Are My Deal-Breakers?
Just like it’s important to know what you don’t want in a relationship, it’s also important to know your deal-breakers. These are the things that would make you end a relationship, no matter how much you like the person. Some examples of deal-breakers can be if the person is abusive, addicted to drugs, or is not ready to be in a committed relationship.
21. What Are My Relationship Goals?
It’s also helpful to know what your goals are for the relationship. This can include things like wanting to get married and have children or wanting to travel and experience new cultures together. Having an idea of what you want in the future can help you attract a partner who wants the same things.
22. How Much Do I Want To Share With Them?
You don’t have to share everything about yourself on a first date, but it is important to be honest about the things that are important to you. This can include your values, your hobbies, and your goals.
Sharing these things with someone can help them understand you better and decide if they want to pursue a relationship with you. It can help you both avoid wasting any more time past the first date if something doesn’t click.
23. What Do I Do If I Don’t Feel A Spark On The First Date?
Just because you don’t feel a spark on a first date doesn’t mean that the person is bad for you. Sometimes it takes a little while to get to know someone before you start to feel a connection with them. If you don’t feel a spark on the first date, it’s ok to give the person a second chance. But that’s totally up to you. What do you want to do?
24. What Do I Do If I Feel A Spark?
If you do feel a spark on the first date, that’s great!
Do you tell them so?
Do you just keep it to yourself and plan a second date?
What are you going to do?
25. What Do I Do If I’m Not Sure What I Want?
If you’re not sure what you want, that’s ok! The most important thing is to be honest with yourself and the person you’re on the date with.
You can tell them that you’re not sure what you’re looking for and see how they react. If they’re understanding and patient, it might be worth exploring things further with them.
26. What Do I Do If The Person Is Not What I’m Looking For?
If you realize that the person you’re on a first date with is not what you’re looking for, it’s ok to end things there. There’s no need to lead the person on or waste their time. You can politely say that you’re not interested and leave it at that.
27. What Do I Do If There’s An Emergency?
If there’s an emergency and you are on a first date, it’s important to stay calm and handle the situation. If you’re not sure what to do, it’s ok to ask for help from a friend or family member. The most important thing is to keep everyone safe.
28. What Character Traits Do I Want To Exhibit On My First Date?
Some character traits that you might want to exhibit on your first date are confidence, kindness, and intelligence. These are just a few examples, but it’s important to be yourself and show the person your true personality.
29. What Do I Do If I See Someone I Know On My First Date?
If someone you know is at the place you are having your first date, how are you going to handle it?
Do you want your date to get a firsthand look into how you handle relationships?
Do you want your date to see how liked you are?
How will you behave with this person in front of your date?
30. What Do I Want To Know About Them?
You don’t want to go asking too many personal questions on a first date, but there are some things that you might want to know about the person you’re dating right away, such as their hobbies, their values, and their goals.
Asking these questions can help you get to know them better and decide if you want to pursue a relationship with them.
31. Who Is Going To Pay?
This is a first date conundrum that everyone faces. If you are unsure, decide that you are going to pay for both of you or just for yourself to avoid any unnecessary awkwardness when a bill comes.
32. What First Impression Do I Want To Make?
The first impression you make is important, so you want to make sure that it’s a good one. You can do this by being confident, kind, and intelligent. These are just a few examples, but it’s important to be yourself and show the person your true personality.
33. Am I Willing To Give My Date Another Chance If They Mess Up?
If your date messes up, you might be willing to give them another chance. This is especially true if you feel like there’s a connection between the two of you.
However, it’s important to trust your gut and not force yourself to stay in a situation that makes you uncomfortable.
34. How Can I Be As Honest As Possible On My First Date?
It’s important to be honest on your first date.
You can do this by being yourself.
Don’t pretend to be someone you are not.
Just be you.
35. What Are Some Red Flags That I Should Be Aware Of?
For the most part, some red flags to be aware of on a first date are if the person is rude, if they’re not listening to you, or if they’re trying to pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do. If they are showing you these things up front, then you won’t want to see what they are not showing you.